B) Observations of life situations that evoke questions and responses.

We often heard of speeches which are given by our politicians, leaders and from social agencies to improve the society and to empower girl education as well as women. Their motivational speeches transform individual’s thinking and perspective. Their agendas are always to improve society and for the improvement they make certain rules and regulations and pass them too. But are those rules really implemented effectively? Why these rules are not followed? Before our independence, our leaders always think of a country where each and every individual gets their rights. And even after independence this been has not achieved?

As we are seeing that new developments is taking place at all fronts such as sciences, health, commerce, agriculture, space sciences, social sciences, health sciences are coming up but somewhere our country is lagging behind in terms of awareness of education especially in girl education. Two days before, I saw a girl who was around 8-9 years. She was wearing a flowery printed dress which was shabby. She was a having a book and she was trying to read it and just besides her there was a tea seller’s shop and she was one of the workers of that shop. I decided to go there and ask the tea seller that don’t he know about the prohibition of child labor? As I reached there ask him about this the child was started to say that she is doing it on herself and no one has forced her. I was really surprised as well as shocked and started screaming on her. I told her that you are the ones who blame ours politicians for unemployment. After all of these she started crying and told me ma’am: you don’t my family situation. I am one and only child of my family. I wanted to study but my father wants me to do household work, he wanted me to marry. After this all of these my thoughts took me too far and forced me to think, that what is wrong with our country? Why such gender discrimination taking place still in the twenty first century? Is our country really developing, where a child could not get his/her universal rights? Every day in newspaper, television or in radio’s we heard of girl abuse, molestation, child trafficking, when this all be stop? Each girl child should have the same right as that of a boy. As a citizen, it should be each and everyone’s duty to ensure that each child whether it’s a girl or a boy should get their rights and elementary education. Talking about the socialization of Hindu middle class, a woman says-once a girl is married, she too cannot expect to visit her family often. “Is it really necessary to follow such customs or traditions? Are we really stepping towards development? Are these we called? “Socialization” There is another aspect of the process of socialization i.e. training for feminine task like work around the kitchen, dirty household work and childcare generally in the feminine sphere. The distinction between feminine and masculine work comes early in childhood and becomes sharper as the child grows up. A girl who does not like to do feminine work is reminded that if she thinks that she becomes a male,” she has mistaken”. How can she escape it? Having been born a female? Even in the serving and distribution of food within the house is that the leftovers food should be eaten by female and not by male members of the family. Family and society never accepts a girl who does not want to perform the so called household work. Even in the period of globalization and socialization, society keep on thinking that men are meant for physical and outdoor tasks whereas girls are meant for household and indoor tasks.

We often see that in an Indian family, the girls are being neglected in terms of food and nutrition, healthcare, education and decision-making. Even at the time of birth, the family members keenly want a boy child. The desirability of having sons and undesirability of having more daughters is made explicit. We often heard a statement: Four daughters? Each one will take ten thousand (Rs.10, 000) and walk out of the house. Bringing up a daughter is like pouring water in sand or like watering a plant in another’s courtyard. The family never wanted a girl child they think that girls are meant for others belongings. The undesirability of having a girl can be seen easily. Sometimes I think that our country India is consider to be a secular country and each one is equal before law. A country where we worship women as a GODDESS then why on the other hand women gets deprived of their basic rights. This can be stopped only when we will give our best bit of contribution to raise a voice against this discrimination and an equal proportion of equality for women. Then our country can get rid of this discrimination which has been practicing in our society. . Though, we have grown by leaps and bounds yet, the most basic structure of society is showing no sign of improvement. A large percentage of Indian women have faced or facing this menace, whether it is a public transport system or public places or shopping malls, a women find themselves vulnerable to threat of eve-teasing everywhere. Eve-teasing is a complex problem and it required more attention than what it has actually got. The term ‘eve’ actually signifies that the eves are the women who provokes male for vulgar comments and behavior. But that is almost like blaming the victims for their sufferings. Every man needs to know how to behave with women. Our country can developed only when girls and boys are equally treated. A country could not develop without the contribution of women, both are equally needed. There should not be any discrimination on the basis of caste, race, gender, religion. Each and every individual should get equal opportunity weather a girl or a boy because we all are human beings and we all have the same capability, the only difference is once perspective and nurturing of the child.